Common Thread Group

David Pithers 13th November 2018

It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of a dear colleague and friend of Common Thread, David Pithers. David died peacefully on Tuesday the 13th of November.

Many of you will not have known David but those of us who knew and worked with him understand the real loss he is to Common Thread and the child care sector. He helped define who we have become. You see David came out of retirement to join us in the very early days of Common Thread when we just had an idea and lots of enthusiasm and he helped mold us into a credible model of childcare.

David Pithers was a philosopher, Oxford Don, Cambridge graduate, author, TV expert and child careworker.
He himself would say that the title he is most proud of is “childcare worker”.

Many nights he sat with us thinking creatively about how to support a child and a team, always coming up with an amazing idea and some incredible practice. He came into his own when with the children, forging some of the most amazing relationships and always with a quiet respect.

For me not only did he believe in me when there were many naysayers but he was a supporter and a friend. He introduced us to a humanistic approach, he demanded that I stayed curious and rigorous in my academic research because he hated sloppy work! And he always kept our focus on the child, regardless of the pressures and demands from others.

So I know that who Common Thread is today is in a large part due to David’s gentle support and teachings. I consider him a fundamental part of the Common Thread DNA.

Please take time to think of his dear wife Maggie and his son Lindsay at this sad time.

I leave you with quote that both David and I loved:

When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, thenyou become Real.” “Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit. “Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he wasalways truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.

Margery Williams, 1881-1944. The Velveteen Rabbit : or How Toys Become Real. Leesburg, VA :GiGi Books, 2003.lie